Cutting the Emotional Cords that Bind and Weigh You Down

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Every time I find myself caught up in a twisty knot of my emotions, I end up finding techniques to unknot myself.

In this case, an unsatisfactory relationship in which I can't seem to get rid of the guy, and I know it's a karmic relationship which I have healed as much as I am able and so I feel it's time to move on.  

Madisyn Taylor, co-founder of DailyOM describes cutting those emotional cords that bind. Meditation, visualization and  focus are the simple tools you need to rid yourself of the emotional baggage weighing you down.

A Sense of Closure

In every relationship, people are constantly exchanging energy that can become a chord connecting two people. This energetic cord forms just below the breastbone and can remain long after a relationship has ended. This unbroken cord may leave an open channel between you and another person, through which emotions and energy can continue to flow.

If you are unaware that the chord exists, it is easy to feel the other person’s emotions and mistakenly think that they are yours.

Besides the fact that this can limit the amount of closure you can experience in a relationship, letting this cord remain intact can leave you with a continued sense of sadness while creating feelings of lethargy as your own energy is sapped from you.

Cutting the cord can help you separate yourself from old baggage, unnecessary attachments, and release you from connections that are no longer serving you.

Finding and cutting unwanted cords is a simple, gentle process that is best done alone and when you are relaxed. It is important that you are strong in your intention to release the chord between you and someone else.

To begin, breathe deeply and perform a simple centering meditation. When you are ready, visualize or sense the chords that are connecting you to other people.

Run your fingers through the cords to separate them until you find the cord you wish to sever. There is no need to worry, because the chord you need to sever will feel just right.

When you have found it, determine where the cut should be made and then visualize the cord being cleanly cut. If you need assistance, Archangel Michael can be called upon to help you with his sword.

Afterward, if you feel that cutting the chord has left spaces in your energy field, then visualize those spaces being filled with healing sunlight.

There may be times where cutting a cord can help free a relative or loved one to reach new stages of growth. You’re not severing a relationship, but you are severing the cords that are no longer serving you both.

At other times, a cord may simply refuse to be cut because it is still serving a higher purpose. It is also important to remember that cutting a cord with someone is not a replacement for doing your emotional work with people. It can, however, be an enactment of that work upon its completion.

In any case, cutting a relationship cord should always be viewed as a positive and nurturing act. By cutting the cords that no longer need to be there, you are setting yourself and others free from the ties that bind.

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Unseen Power of the Dark Moon - Purge Anything You Don't Want

Unseen Power of the Dark Moon by Madisyn Taylor is a powerful message for those of you open to the truth of what is. Be the change you want to see and trust the process. If it call to you then it's the right time regardless of what else is happening in your life.

The last 3 days of a lunar cycle is a time to let go and purge anything in your life that you want to change.

In ancient times, the moon was revered as a goddess, and each of her lunar phases – new moon, full moon, and dark moon – was said to correspond to the three phases of a woman’s life: maiden, mother, and crone. The moon has long been associated with our power within, and you do not have to be a woman to connect with the moon’s power.

The dark moon, which is associated with the crone phase, appears in the sky during the last three days of every lunar cycle. It cannot be seen with the human eye, but it is the dark moon that presides over the sky until a new 28-day cycle begins and a new moon is ready to appear.

Often referred to as the “dead moon,” the dark moon doesn’t necessarily represent death. It is, however, a time for life-enriching endings and a prelude to new beginnings.

When the dark moon appears, it becomes easier for us to shed unnecessary emotional baggage and free ourselves of people and ideas that no longer serve us or add value to our life.

It is a time to cleanse ourselves and create space so that what is new can enter. For many people, the dark moon is a time to rest, be introspective, and replenish their energy.

Powerful, healing dreams have been known to take place during the dark moon, and you may discover that it is during the dark moon that you are most driven to meditate, explore your intuitive abilities, retrieve past life memories, or delve more deeply into your psyche.

One way to harness the energy of the dark moon is to perform a ritual where you light a black candle.

Call forth and visualize the different parts of your life that you are ready to let go of. Through visualization, bind these parts together with light and imagine this bundle moving toward the candle. Watch these old parts being devoured by the flames, and let the candle burn out. Trust that what you’ve released has left you.

You are now ready to welcome the new into your life.

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FOOD FOR THOUGHT - Never be controlled by the mind of another

Control your own mind, and you may never be controlled by the mind of another.

The mind is the most powerful weapon known to man. It simply cannot be controlled or contained by an outside force, however formidable that force may at first appear.

Throughout history, tyrants have tried to control those who opposed them, but eventually these rulers discovered the power of the imagination was far greater than the threat of the sword.

As Victor Hugo said, “An invasion of armies can be resisted, but not an idea whose time has come.”  NapoleonHill

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A Tsunami of Pain and Rage Reconnects Me to My Self

A fabulous thing happened to me on the road to my new life. I got angry, very very angry at the most unjust act I have ever witnessed being inflicted upon a mentally ill woman that I have come to love and admire.

A tsunami of pain and rage reconnected me to my Self.

I wasn't there when other abusive actions were inflicted on Janice but my anger was simmering from the accounts I head and man, when I let loose it was like oxygen feeding a brush fire.

Awareness is the greatest agent for change. Eckhart Tolle

I raged, I sang, I screamed, I shouted, I talked loud, all day long to express the pain I felt. People must have thought I was going mad. I told her abusers who were supposed to be helping her exactly what I thought about them - blunt and raw - and what they should do to themselves about it.

My rage felt murderous and I swore if I had a gun... yeah, it was that bad!

The next day, the senior supervisor of the hostel where it all occurred tried to threaten and intimidate me because you see, he allowed it to happen and his girlfriend was one of those involved.

As the responsible officer he turned a blind eye to what was taking place and hoped (I'm guessing) that all would work out for the best - over three damn weeks - without his having to take any action.

The attendants at the shelter showed no empathy or compassion and they were actually 'fed up' because she was 'forcing' them to do something. That's horrible and sad at the same time isn't it.

I continued my protest the second day then went looking for my friend - after she was evicted from the hostel, a small, defenceless woman in a crime-ridden part of town, at night - but she wasn't to be found.

She was picked up and taken to the mental hospital on the third day after ransacking a man's house in the neighbourhood.


Because I couldn't find her, I reported the abuse of the four staff members to their boss at the St Vincent Society's office.

When I heard myself speaking to the officer I realised that something had changed. In hindsight, it's the sheer clarity with which I spoke and the silence all around was startling. I was as if "everyone" was listening - as if for that short period all was at a standstill.


For two successive mornings after my ranting and wailing, I woke with headaches which I never get, yet I was so lucid in thought and felt so refreshed. I felt great, weird but true.

True life is lived when little changes occur. ~Leo Tolstoy

On probing my feelings, words unbidden came to mind "I am back" and that made me pause in shock. It was like... WOW! I had found my Self again after almost one year of low-level depression from ending up in a homeless shelter with the roaches, no job, no money, living with homeless psychiatric outpatients and so on.
 
The third day I felt so fab I wondered then wished the feeling would last forever but right after I had that thought, another followed saying "this is normal". That too made me pause then on reflection, I understood, just go with the flow.

That pumping adrenaline that had swept over me for almost an entire day seemed to have swept away the debris that was blocking me, preventing me from seeing, feeling, making decisions and taking action. Basically, I had stopped living which I didn't grasp at the time.

Imagine a gusting, roaring wind that can lift you off your feet and blow you away but instead of doing that, it enters you and changes to a powerful, sweeping spring breeze, refreshing and full of vigor making you think of budding trees, bushes and flowers, dew on early morning grass reflecting jewelled colours under the still cool sunshine, birds tweeting and chattering, all reminding you of the world waking up to a marvelous early spring morning with blindingly bright blue skies and white puffy clouds.

That's how it felt, my waking up! Yeah, wowee!

Life's challenges got me so down that I had lost myself, completely disconnected from who I was and I didn't know it. Those around me are strangers so there was no one to grasp me and say "Catherine what's wrong with you" and if I hadn't felt that tsunami of pain in particular and rage about my friend's predicament the reconnection could not have been made.

We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anais Nin

Let this be a lesson to you folks. That nonsense about politically correct will kill you if you don't find a way to not just express your feelings but also act out as necessary and release those tensions.

Stress kills, you know that.

I rediscovered my self respect and love of self which I only afterward knew had been sorely missed. I had even stopped my daily meditation and energy work. I am so grateful for that cleaning up.

Mahatma Gandhi said be the change you want to see in the world and I intend to continue being just that. It's great to be me!

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