To Let Go Does Not Mean to Stop Caring

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To "let go" does not mean to stop caring,

it means I can’t do it for someone else.

To "let go" is not to cut myself off,

it’s the realization I can’t control another.

To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow
learning from natural consequences.

To "let go" is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

 

 

To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another,
it is to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.

To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.



To "let go" is not to be protective, it is to permit another

 to face reality.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.

To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead

to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires,

but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

 

 

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To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To "let go" is to fear less and love more.

I am healed and whole.

by Louise M. Hay

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Dying to the Old Me - Emancipation

Emancipation Day celebrants

LOVE IS SUCH a hurting thing. We hear that in songs all the time but that's not true at all. Love really does make the world go round. It is such a wonderfully uplifting, open and accepting emotion tolerant of all, critical of none, seeing beauty everywhere eyes are turned.

No, people, I am not in love. I woke up the other morning and after a brief meditation just felt so UP and these thoughts surfaced hence this post.

MY HEART FEELS full to bursting with gratitude. I feel such a tremendous love for my fellow man and now that the scales have been washed from my eyes, I see once again the light in the man who has unstintingly supported me despite his obvious challenges with alcohol.

I became blind to the light in his soul for the past months which was a shame since as that is what attracted me and made me want to know his story - how could he, a natural leader, a man of such worth and with such heart could end up living in a homeless shelter.

I RECOGNIZED not only our stark differences in upbringing and thus life experiences after our one month romantic fling - even that surprised me - but most importantly I began finding fault with his physical appearance resulting in inevitable criticism and angry encounters.

IT SOUNDS GREAT to say "Oh, I'm not normally like that..." but I would be lying and just as hypocritical as anyone else out there who is unable to communicate effectively. This man's lack of self-love and self-flagellation should have been a huge hint that I needed to check myself because that is what I was doing to myself in my empty, go-nowhere, depressing life. It was really terrible!

WE HUMANS ALWAYS project unto others what we don't like in ourselves and when they naturally reflect it right back at us we hate them. How bout them apples, huh, but that is exactly what we all need to 'fess up to.

AS SOON AS I stopped beating myself up, a welcome feeling of peacefulness swept over me. I discovered by chance afterward from one of my FB friends, Penny Black of Morning Messages - and there's no such thing as coincidence - that a rare planetary formation on 29 July 2013 called the Star of David Merkaba Grand Sextile probably had a significant impact on me and others who are growing in awareness.

Nope, this is NOT woo woo stuff. The planets formed two intersecting triangles which formed the Star of David in the sky. It occurs once every 100 years or so and I was like AHA! because that Star pendant was also a gift granted to me in my teens during one of my astral travels almost thirty-eight years ago and that is what made me sit up and take notice. There is not such thing as coincidence people.

THIS GALACTIC EVENT also had a significant impact upon the feminine within all of us. I don't buy into the biblical/doomsday crap out about this either as I know, as a long time astral traveller that WE humans are not the only Beings out here and mother earth, our magnificent blue planet, as we all know is not alone in the universe either. For those interested, Peggy Black describes the impact of the rare planetary formation.

TEARS USED TO BE RARE events in my life. I thought I had used them all up eleven years ago during my suicidal depression. I normally fight down the feelings, soldier on and go analytical to dissect them.

IMAGINE MY HORROR when this overwhelming and I mean overwhelming, feeling of wrenching loss - it felt like death - surfaced in my chest and just never went away. It lasted for weeks and all I could do was cry. It made me crazy. I could barely hold them in and it happened everywhere, in taxis, the library, just walking. It was terrible. In part it helped that I wear sunglasses but not by much.

THAT EVENT LED up to the actual day, 29 July of the rare planetary formation and after which that exquisite feeling of loss faded and the tears petered out. The soul journey is a tough road.

I FELT THE NEED during that time to be on consecrated ground which led me to the one hundred and ninety year old Trinity Cathedral and that's where I found solace in its grounding energy.

I would just go sit there, let the tears flow copiously then go continue my job search.

IT'S AS IF I WOKE UP after that planetary constellation occurred and while sitting quietly one afternoon a 60-something year old woman in the early stages of Alzheimer's told me out of the blue and with perfect clarity "Don't be confused by what's happening around you. Stay as you are." We weren't even having a conversation and it touched me so. I was grateful for the message which confirmed that I was doing okay.

LOVE, LOVE OF SELF, having compassion for your Self and others is magical all by itself. I can reaffirm that after my experiences of feeling crushed and losing myself somehow. I died (or is it the other way around) to the old parts of me that were no longer relevant or needed.

ACCEPTANCE OF THOSE different among us is a serious challenge in some cases however those positive feelings do contribute toward our global upliftment.

I want to reiterate that it really matters not what others think of you. It is none of your bizness! Abraham-Hicks says Allow others to be, do or have whatever they want. You do not have to take anything from their experience that you don't like. Remember that.

IT'S A GREAT OMEN that today is also Emancipation Day here, a public holiday celebrated each year on 1 August to commemorate the emancipation of slaves in the British colonies - Trinidad and Tobago was one - in 1834. They still had to fight for that because the plantation owners wanted to impose a 4-year apprenticeship until they decided how to replace the nigras. Happily that wasn't to be.

ATTAINING THAT WHICH we desire always seems so difficult. It comes from a lack of self-love, confidence and belief in our right to have it. Because of those feelings we find it hard to maintain focus exclusively on what we want. We ae no longer in the flow, the zone, the groove.

WHATEVER YOU DESIRE is yours to receive. All you have to do is be open to it and expect it. Don't hang on to the "I have to have it" desperate plea. That's negative and self-defeating. Simply decide what you want and don't keep changing your mind. Your doubts are telling the Universe "I'm not sure if that's it" so stop that and take whatever little steps you can to further your fesire.

YOU CAN CREATE affirmations or use those offered on places like HayHouse to increase your faith that you will obtain your heart's desire. Affirmations always work. Their use changes your energy to attract what you want. It's when you use words that are countered by your powerful negative belief that you end up with problems such as "I want a million dollars in the bank" and creditors are currently badgering you to make at least a minimum payment. Get my drift. In cases like this get some financial counselling first.

REPEAT AFFIRMATIONS EVERY DAY and often. Louise Hay says that practising affirmations in front of a mirror, I tried it with a makeup mirror, brings on the changes even faster. It's just you and your eyes.

I'VE BEEN MAKING CHANGES all my life yet had conveniently forgotten all the techniques I used over the years that brought me where I am today when I sunk into this slump.

BEGIN A VISUALIZATION workshop every day for fifteen to thirty minutes in which you create and live your dream, your desire, as if it already exists. This is a fabulous way of pumping up your energy with good vibes all the way. You are in effect telling the Universe "Thank you for bringing it my way." You are that certain.

SYNCHRONICITY TAKES CHARGE and creates links in the chain that bring events and you together to attain that no longer unreachable goal. You hear a chance remark, unlikely people point the way, the most banal of situation turn golden, and like that, you are on your way. Have faith in the process.

BE CERTAIN of what you want and desire, ignore all that is not important to you, tell no one about it as they would instill doubt in your mind, stay the course and watch it happen. Dying to the old me was painful, as usual. I intend to get better and better as I re-learn focusing on my needs and being faithful to them and being gentle and compassionate with myself. I deserve it as do you.

Namasté!

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THOUGHT FOR TODAY - That Someone Is Me

Children at Phagwa,  Photo Azlan Mohammed

This is so beautiful and touched me so much that I have to share this thought for the day from Bob Proctor's Insight of the Day.

That Someone Is Me

Someone is lighting a candle for you today and holding you in the light of that flame which burns brightly for you.

Someone is feeling your pain today, your grief and your sorrow and transforming it into joy, serenity and love. Someone is thinking kindly of you today in the deep recesses of their own heart and the depths of their soul. Find peace in that!

Someone is imagining you today surrounded by angels, spirits, healing energies, celestial beings, starlight and deep magic and wonder. Wrap yourself in all of that.

Someone is understanding today, the depths of what you have been going through, and is embracing you with deep compassion and trusting in your own profound inner knowing to see you through it.

Someone is holding your hand today and letting you know that you are never alone and never have been, even though there have been moments, when you lost your way and felt abandoned and afraid. You never were!

Someone truly knows today perhaps at a level that you do not yet, that all is well somehow, even though it may not appear to be so. And that there is great meaning and purpose in your life, just by the very fact that you are here in all your splendor. Without you here nothing would be the same for any of us. Know that and take strength in it.

Someone is praying for you today and their prayers are being heard and answered.

Someone is whispering gently to your soul today to keep going no matter what, one day at a time, one step at a time, one inch at a time. We are all celebrating that you haven't given up and you are making such an immense difference for all of us.

Someone is holding you in the light as things in your world seem to be falling apart and putting them back together for you, in new, miraculous and astonishing ways. Trust and believe in that!

Someone is remembering today, who you really are, and why you came here and reminding you when you begin to close your eyes and surrender, just for a moment, to the truth, to what is right NOW, in this moment, and what can be. Ask for that!

Feel the love, cherish the knowing, drink in the joy, and take comfort and strength in all of it. It is all here for you. Reach for it! Embrace it! It is Divinely Yours!
Veronica Hay


Veronica Hay is an inspirational writer. She provides inspirational support and resources to help you live a richer life. Visit her website at: http://www.insightsandinspirations.com or email her at: veronicamhay@gmail.com

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2 Ways to Exorcise Your Fearful Thoughts and Feelings

I am a voracious reader  and I find messages in books that help me deal with difficulties What the night knows is one such book.
in my life at any point in time and Dean Koontz's

I've been agonizing for weeks, terrified, worried sick really of never finding another job and I am 54 now and jobless since 2012 and under-employed since 2010. On top of that, I met a man, loved something special in him only to discover that he was an abusive alcoholic who I want out of my life, and to cap it all I live in a homeless shelter.

"So be as a child. Put aside pride and vanity. Have the humility of a child who is weak and knows his weakness. Admit fear in the face of the void. Admit ignorance in the presence of the unknowable. A child believes in mysteries within mysteries and seeks wonder, which should be easy considering that here in this year, this very moment, John was adrift in a sea of mystery, in a storm of wonder. What the heart knows, the mind has forgotten and what the heart knows is the truth. ~Koontz's Calvino

My fear reached its peak and caused me to sit up all night on the balcony wracked with the pain of my negative thoughts.

These powerful, negative feelings only give rise to negative results because we feed those beliefs that
bring us down and we begin living in the hell we created.

Worse, we invited that thing that we don't want into our lives, "nothing's ever going to work for me", "he might as well kill me, I don't care anymore" type of shit. That's where I was.

I stayed up supping all night into early morning on the words of Koontz's characters and gained a lot of insight into my own fears.

This is not a book review. Yes, it's got a psychological thrill but even more important and significant to me, it focuses on the innate strength and intuitive knowing of children and how they hold up the world, theirs and ours.

The book was superb, the best I've read in this genre in a few years. Children and adults overcome their fears in their own unique ways, fight for the right to live and love like any adult and are wise beyond their years.

One of the boys now grown reflects on a 20-year old fear that burdened him: "But he figured that if he worried excessively about the feather and what it implied, he might be inviting something into his life that he would regret. Someone once said that if you painted the devil on the walls often enought, you got the devil on the stairs, his footsteps approaching."

I was reminded to face what you fear - FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real - with the utter conviction that it cannot harm you ever. No matter if you are shaking as if you have ague, deal with it and free yourself.

Nothing and no one can harm you unless you believe they can. It means you gave away your power by focusing on the other person instead of yourself and what you want! In these situation, be kind to yourself and have compassion for yourself.

In other words, stop beating yourself up!

After the weight of 20 years apprehension has lifted , Calvino says, "In my work Mr Dugley, I've seen that good usually triumphs. But I've also seen that evil never dies. it's always wise to remain vigilant."

2 ways to exorcise your fearful thoughts and feelings:

1- Write a letter

Don't want to or can't face your monster, imagined or real life events, make some quiet time for yourself then sit down write him or her a no-holds barred letter. Write down every single thing you think and feel about that person to exorcise those demonic thoughts and feelings.

Burn the letter afterward and move on with your new, free life.

2- Face the mirror

Stand in front of the mirror and imagine that beast - mother, father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, friend, neighbour, lover, husband, or colleague - is standing right there in front of you, in the flesh and let rip. Bare your goddam soul as you never have before. Let it all come out.

When you're done, it's done. Go treat yourself to something that makes you feel good and let that be the end of it all.

These two exercises are powerful, cathartic and emotionally freeing. It's just another way of removing emotional blockages and works on anything that disturbs your equilibrium. The letter is particularly powerful and could be one way of opening the door for a much needed discussion.


 "In this world of ours, there's always a chance that a day of fire will come, but there is nothing to be gained by extending an invitation to the arsonist, no matter how persistently he hints that he would like to have one." Koontz's Dugley

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We Can Make A Difference

The selfless acts of kindness and compassion performed by others can become the inspiration that moves us to take up the cause of charity.

If we are diligent and serious in our observation of the small- and large-scale philanthropy we see unfolding around us, we can observe what garners positive results and what doesn’t, thereby refining our own humanitarian efforts.

We are more prone to help people in need when we have both seen others’ bountiful endeavors met with success and have taken pleasure in watching the gratitude unfold of those lifted up into the light. We need never doubt that we, as individuals, can make a difference because we are following in the footsteps of a guiding light.

You will likely be moved to act today as you observe people in the various areas of your life working to make the world a better place. DailyOM

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A Tsunami of Pain and Rage Reconnects Me to My Self

A fabulous thing happened to me on the road to my new life. I got angry, very very angry at the most unjust act I have ever witnessed being inflicted upon a mentally ill woman that I have come to love and admire.

A tsunami of pain and rage reconnected me to my Self.

I wasn't there when other abusive actions were inflicted on Janice but my anger was simmering from the accounts I head and man, when I let loose it was like oxygen feeding a brush fire.

Awareness is the greatest agent for change. Eckhart Tolle

I raged, I sang, I screamed, I shouted, I talked loud, all day long to express the pain I felt. People must have thought I was going mad. I told her abusers who were supposed to be helping her exactly what I thought about them - blunt and raw - and what they should do to themselves about it.

My rage felt murderous and I swore if I had a gun... yeah, it was that bad!

The next day, the senior supervisor of the hostel where it all occurred tried to threaten and intimidate me because you see, he allowed it to happen and his girlfriend was one of those involved.

As the responsible officer he turned a blind eye to what was taking place and hoped (I'm guessing) that all would work out for the best - over three damn weeks - without his having to take any action.

The attendants at the shelter showed no empathy or compassion and they were actually 'fed up' because she was 'forcing' them to do something. That's horrible and sad at the same time isn't it.

I continued my protest the second day then went looking for my friend - after she was evicted from the hostel, a small, defenceless woman in a crime-ridden part of town, at night - but she wasn't to be found.

She was picked up and taken to the mental hospital on the third day after ransacking a man's house in the neighbourhood.


Because I couldn't find her, I reported the abuse of the four staff members to their boss at the St Vincent Society's office.

When I heard myself speaking to the officer I realised that something had changed. In hindsight, it's the sheer clarity with which I spoke and the silence all around was startling. I was as if "everyone" was listening - as if for that short period all was at a standstill.


For two successive mornings after my ranting and wailing, I woke with headaches which I never get, yet I was so lucid in thought and felt so refreshed. I felt great, weird but true.

True life is lived when little changes occur. ~Leo Tolstoy

On probing my feelings, words unbidden came to mind "I am back" and that made me pause in shock. It was like... WOW! I had found my Self again after almost one year of low-level depression from ending up in a homeless shelter with the roaches, no job, no money, living with homeless psychiatric outpatients and so on.
 
The third day I felt so fab I wondered then wished the feeling would last forever but right after I had that thought, another followed saying "this is normal". That too made me pause then on reflection, I understood, just go with the flow.

That pumping adrenaline that had swept over me for almost an entire day seemed to have swept away the debris that was blocking me, preventing me from seeing, feeling, making decisions and taking action. Basically, I had stopped living which I didn't grasp at the time.

Imagine a gusting, roaring wind that can lift you off your feet and blow you away but instead of doing that, it enters you and changes to a powerful, sweeping spring breeze, refreshing and full of vigor making you think of budding trees, bushes and flowers, dew on early morning grass reflecting jewelled colours under the still cool sunshine, birds tweeting and chattering, all reminding you of the world waking up to a marvelous early spring morning with blindingly bright blue skies and white puffy clouds.

That's how it felt, my waking up! Yeah, wowee!

Life's challenges got me so down that I had lost myself, completely disconnected from who I was and I didn't know it. Those around me are strangers so there was no one to grasp me and say "Catherine what's wrong with you" and if I hadn't felt that tsunami of pain in particular and rage about my friend's predicament the reconnection could not have been made.

We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are. ~Anais Nin

Let this be a lesson to you folks. That nonsense about politically correct will kill you if you don't find a way to not just express your feelings but also act out as necessary and release those tensions.

Stress kills, you know that.

I rediscovered my self respect and love of self which I only afterward knew had been sorely missed. I had even stopped my daily meditation and energy work. I am so grateful for that cleaning up.

Mahatma Gandhi said be the change you want to see in the world and I intend to continue being just that. It's great to be me!

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The Possibility of Redemption in You - Decide to forgive for your own sake

Temple-in-the-Sea flags, Waterloo, Trinidad

A lot of us do crazy shit sometimes and are hurtful and deliberately cruel to others for no other reason than we can. We gotta let it out - it is too strong to hold inside.

No one is beyond redemption. Everyone has a bright spark within. No person is 100 percent bad or 100 percent good although that may be difficult for many to accept, and usually only certain people can discern this. No, I am not saying let the serial killers, murderers and the like out of prison nor am I saying let's have a love fest.

For instance, there is a drug dealer in my neighbourhood who I found out paid two homeless men to clear away a little mountain of garbage and clean up the area after the non-renewal of the sanitation company's contract.

It was a thoughtful act but it still does not negate the fact that he deals death whenever he sells his product. So yeah, I still think he's a shite.

However, can I honestly say that my opinion has not shifted just a little bit? No, I can't.

When people hurt you, badly, you remember it. The deeper the pain the more significant the trauma felt and the longer you hold onto it. It festers, creates emotional sores which never scabs over because you keep picking at it.

You need to understand that the pain and rage become trusted partners over time as you keep re-living the event. If there were any pleasant memories associated with your abuser, they become over-shadowed and eventually obliterated by your feelings of animosity.

The first step to redemption is to stop drinking other people's poison. That is what hate is as said so eloquently by Nelson Mandela.

The day will come when you must decide to take a stand for our own sake and say stop, I can't take this anymore!

Either you face down the person, get professional help to deal with your feelings or find a non-invasive technique that works for you - to relieve the pain.

Hate makes you feel strong and invincible but a little piece of yourself dies every day the longer you live the past event or remain in the unbearable relationship, even though it may be only in your mind.

You see, the brain cannot differentiate between what you imagine and what is real. The more powerful the emotion, the more "live" and focussed the thought/imagination.

Decide right now to forgive for your own sake. Regardless of your experiences, you are not doing one damn thing to your abuser be they past or present.

Observe them honestly. Find something, just one little thing, which by the way could be their only redeeming quality, like a spark in the dark that lifts them out of the murky depths.

In times like these, do Byron Katie's The Work on your situation. The amazing clarity and wisdom you find in yourself (be very truthful) encourages you to go further. I posted Don't ever lose faith in yourself after my experiences.

Work at it and remember to love yourself. Whether you accept this or not, you come first. You are useless to yourself and anyone else without self-compassion.

There are many other effective and non-invasive techniques, some of which I talk about in Take the next turn into your new life. That is just a starter so go ahead and take charge, empower yourself.

You allowed your past to define you and because of that you remained trapped in limbo, surrounded by hate, shame, guilt, rage and fear. That is an explosive cocktail and a terrible burden to bear and it eventually destroys you.

When you decide to let go, more light than darkness will permeate your world. Tell yourself each day that you are worth it and know that regardless of what you have done in the past or what has been perpetrated upon you in the past, it is just that, the past.

It is what you are yet to achieve that counts. The future is not yet written; your actions determine that and it is certainly not etched in stone!

The possibility of redemption is in you!

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Create a Universal Shift When You Help Others

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While most of us are not an Oprah, Richard Branson, Bill and Melinda Gates, or Warren Buffet, to name just a few of the world's philantropists, each and every one of you have the ability to create a universal shift in consciousness which moves the world and all in it when you help another human being.

It does not require tons of money. In fact, it does not require money at all. Give of your time – pay forward what someone else gave you – give your spare change – gift someone with a smile – hug someone who needs it – ask someone how they are today – tell someone close that you love them – apologise for hurtful words – and most importantly folks, forgive, forgive, forgive and let go.

You change the world when you release painful burdens. You are not doing it for anyone, you are doing it for yourself. Heal what ails you and you positively impact the world – that is compassion!

What you give selflessly will be returned to you in kind an some other fashion. That is normal.

The selflessness that leads us to serve as a force for good in the lives of others eventually loops back around so that we come by all the support and aid we need during periods of upheaval. 

In order to make certain that this reciprocity can find purchase in our existence, we must embark upon our initial journeys of charity with nothing but altruistic intentions in our hearts. Like attracts like, which means that we create a universal shift when we help others, thereby drawing similar generosity into our spheres of influence. 

We may never see the repercussions of our actions in the lives of those we choose to help, but we will feel their impact in our day-to-day experiences for years to come. The noble mood that motivates you to take up a philanthropic cause today will have broad effects in your own existence. ~DailyOM

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Adopt An Attitude of Tolerance

Image by (UB) Sean R

This relationship business is a touchy-feely business and most of us would prefer to have a hands-off affair with it. Isn't that so? 

Whether it's between lovers, business partners, friends, and the (dreaded) family where so much of the button-pushing takes place, communication though essential oft goes awry.

We tend to go the easy route of "I talk and you listen" not that it doesn't have its place but communicating is so much more and it requires an attitude of tolerance and allowing.

Communicating is about sharing what you feel from a non-judgemental point of view and bringing the other person along with you. 

It's a win-win situation all round. It might not start off exactly the way you might wish but it's your call. That communication ball is always in your court.

There is nothing wrong in compromising either because it is not always about being right and wrong. Basically, it boils down to "does it matter that much to me?; what am I losing" and ask yourself as well "what is best for the other person"?

Because we are all such rich and varied individuals with such different values, getting together is easy but staying together is tough exacerbated when we do not accept the other person as they are and try to change them to the way we want them to be. 

I was a judgemental, intolerant person throughout my teens and into my early thirties.  I discovered years later that my black and white attitude was a defensive mechanism due to my dysfunctional upbringing.

What I am discovering is that when we let go of the belief of how we think life should be and allow others to express their uniqueness, you develop tolerance. A lot of lip-biting, teeth-clenching, hand-clenching, forcibly restraining your tongue and cutting off the recriminatory thoughts before they overwhelm you will be necessary.

As you get into the practice of allowing others to be, do or have whatever they want — I am not advocating allowing someone to self-harm and do nothing! — you begin to feel calmer, and gradually become more open to what is. Best of all, you eventually will be able to squelch your negative thoughts as they arise whenever you see them do crap.

Because your emotional negative reaction is decreasing, you are no longer sending off those waves of unspoken energy – pretending not to be angry – the person on the receiving end will be affected by your change in a positive way. And all because you decided to let them be! 

It is important to accept people for who they are.  You may not like or respect them for what they say and how they act but I have come to realise that everyone has a place and purpose and that is why they are here. Stay authentic to who you are and be nice to yourself when you lose it.

Compromising when faced with the prospect of disagreements with the people we care about allows us to ensure that differences of opinion become another piece of the rich tapestry of our relationships. 

While we need not adopt the values and beliefs of our loved ones, we can respect that their life paths will often take them in directions that are in opposition to our own. 

In fact, our differences can bring us closer together when we use them as stepping-off points for deep discussions in which we share the depths of our souls with one another. 

When we open up in this way, any stubbornness we might have felt melts away in the warmth and admiration we feel for our conversational partner. Adopting an attitude of tolerance will allow you to get along with loved ones even when you do not see eye-to-eye.  ~DailyOM 

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Falling In Love With Life and Moving Beyond Our Self-Imposed Barriers To Creation

                  Papaver "Falling in Love"Falling In Love With You

Falling in love with you, falling in love with me, falling in love with life is a magnificent act of Being. How many of you have fallen in love with yourself and life today?

It is essential to human growth you know. It is the best growth hormone around! Ask any child. In fact, watch a child and you will see the truth of it.

Your love is the lantern which lights the way through the Darkness. You are the best Love Project around. ~Cara Barker

Love is essential for growth, aging and staying power. You and I have things to do here!

Have you grasped that the inspirational wave including affirmations, success strategies, coaching "gurus", channelling, motivational speakers, and the like all have only one goal in common.

It is to bring you and only YOU into alignment with your centre, your inner world, your spirit; in other words to make you fall in love with your Self.

We Are The Abundance Project

I listened to Jo Dunning  on World Puja Network Radio – I discovered her and the freely offered Abundance Breakthrough Project through Jennifer McLean's Healing With the Masters programme — and when she said "we must be aligned with who we are to assist the earth in her alignment" those words resonated like a temple gong inside me.

We are spiritual beings of light living a human existence. We are here to go beyond our self-imposed human limits. Thus, the devastation created by volcanoes, tornadoes, tsunamis, hurricanes, and earthquakes in the last fifteen years up till now and the significant physical changes they created make sense.

One by one, group by group, gardener by gardener, we are falling in love with life because as Eckhart Tolle said, "We are life". When that happens we fall in love with one another, with all that is. 

Things are speeding up. It is time to step up to the plate and take your turn to bat! It is time to pierce those mental limits and take your turn to bat. 

We are the abundance project for this planet! We are the ones we have been waiting for!

We are hard-wired for love. When someone takes the time to remember connection, everyone awakening benefits. ~Cara Barker

Mother Earth Is In Transition

Jo also mentioned during the Abundance telecast on World Puja Radio that the people who died during the cataclysms – Japan and elsewhere – willingly gave up their lives (lights) to assist Mother Earth in her transition. That statement left me breathless and it feels right as well.

Don't religious folk and insurance companies call natural "disasters" and such "acts of god"? That is one way to put it, for sure.

Polar bears on North Pole sea ice Faith or belief has nothing to do with religion. It is your connection to Source, God, Universe, or your Higher Self which is inside you that knows and is guiding you.

As I heard a wonderfully wise minister say on Oprah's Spirit channel, religion is the conduit to spirituality; that sounds right to me. 

And keep in mind that when you hand over your power to someone else, you no longer think for yourself. You will therefore be unable to witness with clear vision the magic taking place in our world.

Experience The True Bliss of Our Humanity

As Jo Dunning and others have said we are three-dimensional beings. Therefore, it is absolutely essential that we harmonise our inner and outer lives in order to experience the true bliss of our humanity, walking this magnificent world of ours.

There is only one like it in all the galaxies and we damn well better cherish it, stop abusing her and the children that we call animals. If we do not, they are going to disappear into another realm and it will be our loss and that of future generations.

This blue world of ours — even while is seems to wreak havoc is magnificent. We are its caretakers so let us start acting like it!

We are connected after, all. You and I are intertwined with natural elemental forces, as part of Creation's tapestry. We are interwoven with one another. If I neglect you, I break faith with all that is most essential to the heart. I sever connection with the advance of humankind toward its own best unfolding. If I break faith with you, this pretending we are not brothers and sisters brings devastation to our greater family. ~Cara Barker

It Is Not Revenge

There are people full of fear out there in the the "real" world who say that Mother Earth or Gaia as some call her, is taking "revenge" upon us for our sins. That is absolute garbage!

Image by Valerie Everett  The observant among us will remember that with each shift of her magnificent body, going back at least fifteen years, the earth has significantly changed the face of the affected land masses.

While nature has taken her course well before, I feel that things are speeding up. That means that lots of other physical changes have already been wrought which we will hear about in due course.

The Physical World Is Changing

Maps have to be redrawn and instruments re-calibrated but not too hastily because... the North Pole is moving – perhaps as Jo Dunning said to switch places with the South Pole – glaciers are melting and moving and they are unstoppable; ice caps are melting, new unexplored lands are being revealed and other land masses are inexorably shifting metres every year, as well.

Don't you feel excited about all these changes? I certainly do!

The face of the earth as we know it is becoming unrecognisable. I have only 52 years and do not know if I will be alive to see the spectacular changes but I am looking forward to the new discoveries.

I too am changing after cataclysmic personal events.

I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no "brief candle" to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations. ~George Bernard Shaw

A Clash With Two Vipers

A while back,  I felt buoyed up during the day by a diamond alignment session with Jacqueline Joy and soon after a distant relative attempted to crush me. It was stand up for myself or suffer, again.

I am thought of as the emotional sucker in the family. The one who will clean up, clear up, fix up and be fucked up and take it all silently or laughing. Despite the fact that these people's memories of me is twenty-five years out of date!

So, I had to verbally smack down my birth mother — it was the first time I did it out loud — and listen up now, this is not to describe the event in detail, that is old news and a closed subject. I bring this up to share the resulting growth lessons in those very long and fiery five minutes.

They say "you never get more than you can handle", well I handled it impeccably. It was perfect.

Forgiveness occurs when we realize that forgiveness isn't even necessary. ~Neale Donald Walsch

Later that night I received a magnificent energetic boost from Jo Dunning's Abundance broadcast that cleared away the scum, and all is well.

Upheavals And The Human Spirit

Upheavals impact us all but the human spirit is strong and vibrant when we are tuned in, tapped in and turned on to who we are. When we are connected with our Higher Self — whether you call that Universe, God, Source or whatever, as they say in the Caribbean anything could play and we would be "up for it".

We are here to help one another out of the cracks, crevasses and rubble in which they may find themselves. Those we cannot assist or who do not want our support must be left to their own devices. They have their own road to hoe and will meet someone else offering the same assistance.

Growth Lessons and Gifts Received 

• I found my authentic voice in those five minutes. I have never felt such a powerful force emanate from my gut, up my throat and out my mouth. The inside of my throat was temporarily "on fire".

Born to say "I love you" by Parvin ♣( OFF for a while )
• I am truly in control of my thoughts! There were no mental aftershocks or ridiculous mental arguments (of which I am a champion) of "how dare they, who the hell..., how could they treat me like this..." and all that shit I lived in 2010.  Caving in was not an option!

• I am firmly anchored in the reality of what is – my seat of power.  My outer world felt shaken for a few minutes afterward but my inner foundation stayed rock solid. A love song started playing in my head when I thought of them.

• I am very grateful to those two mindless vipers. Jo Dunning suggested we feel gratitude for people like that in her Abundance message on 17 March on World Puja Network  and I vibe with that. Can you imagine what it must be like living in their bodies, with their personalities? I am so glad it's not me!  

• I discovered how strong and powerful I really am. I feel as if I could lift the earth by myself – okay maybe just a sprawling ranch-type multi-level house:))

I am falling in love with my life and because of that I have taken a giant step to move beyond our self-limitations. We did not choose them so I wish you would do the same.

It is a fabulous day today... I feel so blessed and I am grateful for love this day. Be blessed!

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The Cathedral Of My Heart

              Buddha in Viet Nam 
In the cathedral of my heart shines a light so bright, so all encompassing that it leaves me bereft of words to adequately describe it.

It fills me up and every cell of my being, my delicious temple, my body glories in its brightness.


Massive golden doors swing open automatically in welcome.

There is room for all who venture there, the angry, the thirsty, the pitiful, the disrespectful, the mighty, the small and the innocents, most of all.

The sick, the weary, the needy, feeling unworthy, drop in any time.  Stay as long you like till eternity even, there is space for all.


Burdens are not mine to carry but you may lay yours on my altar and be lifted.


My laughing graceful mighty Buddha tops it all creating a back drop wise and sure. Come sit, be embraced, all welcome those arms say.

His lap is my beautiful altar made of gold, same as the three walls, door and floor. It glows a warmth that transcends all. The Venetian lace covering cannot hide its beauty, too flimsy but I love the whimsy.

His head touches the open blue sky where you see cloud puffs stroll by; a more perfect roof has never been made.

Lady Mary the wise, smiling and ever so kind circles in from time to time. I don’t know her well but graces my temple she does.


Guardians known and unknown grace my space and light up my world. Something grand is happening. All is alight and compassion is its name.

The first time I saw those massive golden temple doors I wondered, Is this a game? It seemed insane but in I went; it is my space after all introduced to me by Jennifer McClean’s Soul Song 2011 with Body Dialogue so it's mine and I'm staying!

It belongs to me lock stock and barrel and I commune every day bringing the needy to the pool of healing.  All who hurt me deliberately or not are especially welcome because they teach me something new every day.

                                         Little Buddha The pool is for sharing, healing and cleansing, frolicking and the waterfall is the back wall,  the curtain separating the physical from my Nirvana. Only those I love through eternity passes that portal.

So come one and all, heart gate open to all.

This is not egotistical but vibrational. I share what I must because it is part of me. So today, yesterday and tomorrow I offer this love sublime that is all mine.

Just wanted to share that today.

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Opening the Heart Chakra — A Simple Mantra

This is a delicious meditation – it's the only word that comes to mind!

Olivia Rosewood's entire article  Please Meditate: Check your heart chakra is so soft and loving as she invites us to perform this meditation. Do read. This is everyday spirituality people; get on board!

To encourage the opening of the heart chakra energy vortex, try this simple mantra repetition exercise:

»Set a timer for five, 10, or 20 minutes.

»Close your eyes and place both hands over your heart.

»With the palms of your hands, listen to your heart. Listen for the rhythm of your heartbeat, and also listen to the energy in this area.

» You may feel ache, pain, or any range of human emotion. Feeling is healing, so feel these energies, and then let them go.

Take a deep inhale, and as you exhale, slowly say to yourself or out loud, "y-ah-m" (yam as in tom, not yam as in sam).

Repeat "yam" slowly with your inhale and then with your exhale until your timer ends.

Then sit in silence of the mind, deepening your awareness of true meditation.

You might notice spontaneous, effortless love for yourself and all of existence pouring out of your heart chakra. If you do feel this, please enjoy it.

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• Beverley Golden: Heart Facts: How Well Do You Know Yours? (huffingtonpost.com) — Superb article with tons of facts and worthwhile info; very informative.

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30 False Beliefs from My Fabulous Life Metamorphic Trip

Image by Thomas Hawk

Are you afraid of being kind, showing tenderness and caring? It does not make you weak; I can attest to that. 

For years growing up, I abhored showing any kind of emotion. I did not realise it was because my good nature was always abused.

Anger was okay. I needed the outlet anyway to deal with the dysfunctional environment in which I grew up.

That blockage stayed with me for decades. Obligation, responsibility and pay back have always been the watch words in the family house. It replaced love and caring.

Because of this dysfunction, I thought romantic movies were sappy and fake, which they were, but my judgement applied to real life as well. Love did not exist. Screwed up, I certainly was.  

Openly showing kindness spelt weakness of the worse sort. Any kind of giving was out of the question! 

Yet, I gave of myself unstintingly to everyone. It was natural but bizarrely I never considered that. If someone is in difficulty, it is normal for me to offer my assistance whether I like the person or not. That is what human beings do.

I have been told that I am kind, that I have a kind heart, but I find that hard to accept because it is still in me that being called kind is equated with being weak! Stupid, I know.

My point is that I did not know what to believe about myself. Actually, I did not know my Self at all. 

I understood decades later that those feelings were linked to my mother forcing me to give up whatever I owned (including my too small clothing) to my younger siblings whenever they demanded it. She said it was to "keep the peace".

It set up a pattern in later years where all they had to say was "I want that" — something of mine and I would automatically give it because I felt I had no choice in the matter.

This woman set me up for a life of deprivation with the message "you do not have the right to succeed". How can anyone do that to a child? She was obviously coming from a place of painful lack herself.

She has no generosity of spirit. Everything is a payback and as she grows older, gives less and less, hoards more and more, demands more and manipulates her children to get it.

She does not like anyone, not even herself.

She is a bottomless pit of need which is a shame because she has a pleasant, child-like quality about her which attracts people to her. I think that comes from her lack of emotional growth.

However, she is her own pity party; deliberately creating diseases and other ailments to get attention and starting her own emotional infernos to get a reaction (from yours truly). It is all she has now.

Nothing is ever her responsibility and in the four plus decades that I have known this woman, I have observed one significant change. She says thank you now. That is major!

She also helped me out financially in a significant way in 2010. I was shocked and grateful at the same time. I also understood later on that it was payback to me, on an energetic level. 

Image by Images by John 'K'For the first time in memory, my family helped me and for that I was prepared to give  selflessly in return.

All I asked in return was kindness, and understanding while I found my feet, on my return to the Caribbean.

Instead, they proceeded to rip my heart out.

They recognised you see that I had irrevocably changed in my twenty-four year absence. The new me had limits and that was not appreciated.

My mother was particularly incensed about that and decided to get her pound of flesh.

So, what false beliefs did this human embed in my psyche through this scarification process (emotionally and physically) that really pertained to her, and which I had absorbed and need to clear decades later?

1. I come first.
2. I am stupid.
3. You have a nobody.
4. Love does not exist.
5. I have no self-worth. 
6. I do not have enough. 
7. Getting money is hard.
8. Don't be stupid like me. 
9. Buy cheap and make do.
   
10. Only my feelings matter.
11. You must take care of me. 
12. You are no better than me.
13. Abundance is for high class people.
14. You must work hard for little reward.
15. You do not have the right to succeed.
    
16. I am not okay and neither will you be. 
17. It is normal to encounter difficulties in life.
18. I am not responsible for anything I do or say. 
19. You must do it all perfectly, no errors allowed.
20. Money is for scraping by; saving is for rich folk.
21. Denigration and moral self-immolation is normal.  
22. You do not have the right to have more than I did.
23. I knew nothing better and this is the best I can do.
24. You have to work hard for your money but it doesn't last.
25. Abundance is for other people, not me, and certainly not you. 
26. Do not admire what others have, you don't know how the got it. 
27. When I do anything for you, you must repay it in cash or in kind.
28. If you ever have more money than you need, you do not deserve it and must get rid of it.
29. It is my right to demand that you take care of me. That is why you received a minimum education. 
30. I am not responsible for anything I do or say and I will never apologise or acknowledge your feelings. 

It took me a long while to get here people and I guarantee you, I ain't going back there. I am naked now, scars showing and it's all good.

Although I knew a lot of this, this wonderful woman launched into a diatribe against me today during one of her vitriolic ego trips, and clarified everything I have written here.

I had to put it down for posterity immediately; the words just flowed. She is nothing but pain.

I used to think of her, her daughter and son-in-law as beasts; wild, ravaging animals throughout 2010 because they hurt me so bad. That, of course did me no good because I got it back in spades. That was the law of vibration at work people.

Now that is gone. Even though I still live in the same house, I rarely think of them even when I see them. They are just lost, confused and very, very small. 

It does not mean they don't tick me off at times; they do but I do not show it.

It does not mean that their deliberate wounding words and actions don't make my heart ache sometimes, they do; but I refuse to show that! 

Image by thenemrel No matter how choked up I get, I intend to be kind, and honest when I feel the need to express.

 

Meditation and EFT tapping help me a lot here. If you are interested, learn how to tap. 

And here's what I learned about my Self from all this which started off my new decade in 2011 just right:

I am love, confident, resourceful, 

generous, assertive and unstoppable. 

A beacon called to share my light and talents with the world, 

and to be real, generous and inspiring. 

(Thank you Chloe Taylor Brown!)

What a fabulous metamorphic trip I am on here. I am tripping out on love and life and it does not get any more fulfilling than this. I know it is going to get even better!

I am grateful to my mother in all her dysfunctional glory. Marian, I love you so much and thank you! I could not have made it here without you!

After all, life is about loving.

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