Time TO BE Authentic: Stand Up For What is Right Even If You Stand Alone

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Food for thought today is about honesty — it is time to be authentic — it is tough but worth it.

I am sure you know the saying Honesty is the best policy but have you ever asked yourself for whom.

I am positive you know this one as well let's not have any secrets between us or something as preposterous that a guy said about his troubled marriage I will never lie to my wife (he told his wife "I still love my old girlfriend but I am in love with you")!


Both parties had lives before they met (unless they are 18 to 28 years old) and quite frankly sharing secrets when you are just starting out is not the best way to create a solid foundation.

If you are out to describe the truth, leave elegance to the tailor. —Albert Einstein

Of course we all have secrets; things that should be left in the past and others that we have outgrown. And I am not talking about heinous crimes but then again that depends on the individual judgement, does it not.


Your honesty is meant to create bonding, not divisiveness! 

Telling your partner you were a prostitute in another life, that you have had same sex relationships, that you had an abortion because you were not ready, and so on, should be based on one criteria only; whether the past activities are affecting your relationship. 

So ask yourself, if you come clean will your honesty bring you closer or is it your actions that are creating tension in the relationship.


When we align our thoughts, emotions, and actions with the highest part of ourselves, we are filled with enthusiasm, purpose, and meaning. . . . We are joyously and intimately engaged with our world. This is the experience of authentic power. —Gary Zukav


Remember, it is your own thoughts that are running around in the rat cage of your mind which are creating your stress and anxiety!

I am obviously not a relationship counsellor and this is emotional stuff however it if there is one thing I know for sure, when stuff bothers you, go see a psychotherapist and work your stuff out there. 

I would not pass up my regular visits for any amount of money. Adding a regular, daily twenty-minute meditation to your routine is a huge plus!

Before you let your boldness get the best of you, you may want to examine the reasons behind your choice to be honest. If it is for the good of the relationship or will bring positive change into the other person's life, then these are good reasons. 

But if it is to absolve your own guilt, potentially hurting the person you want to confess to, you may want to reconsider its value. This is why it takes such courage to be honest sometimes—we have to be honest with ourselves and that has the potential to hurt ourselves and others. There are ways to be honest gently as well as brutally, and there are times when honesty is not the best policy. 

Let your courage guide you as you honestly consider all the ramifications of your honesty today. —DailyOM