When Change Is Being Forced Upon You, Accept It

He who rejects change is the architect of decay.  The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery.  ~Harold Wilson

The latest thing I've learned is when change is being forced upon you, accept it. It circumvents thoughts like "I feel alone", "I can't go any further", "why is it always to hard", "I don't have a life", etc. and the negative feelings which accompany such thoughts.

So what do you do when you have similar thoughts? Lots of us have had them in some form in weak moments and many people still do. It happens when you keep focussing on what you don't want in your life.

If you don't like something change it;  if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.  ~Mary Engelbreit

An incident occurred recently which brought these questions to mind. It made me realise that's how I used to think and also, how easy it would be to fall back into that no-exit kind of thinking.

When  stray thoughts like these surface, move on immediately to a better feeling thought, and another and another until you are flowing downstream and feeling good.

Change is a fact of life

You see, when life is pushing you in one direction and you fight it because you fear the unknown, you end up hurting yourself. Sure, life could knock you down so low that you don't believe you would ever rise up again - as I have cause to know. But you do rise again and stronger than before. That's the beauty of it.

Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure.  But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it.  Because we cannot accept the truth of transience, we suffer.  ~Shunryu Suzuki

And I reiterate here again, the pain occurs because you resist what is happening instead of accepting it. That makes a huge difference. When you cannot change what is happening, change the way you think about it.

Accept what is. Change is a fact of life and feeling afraid of the unknown future isn't going to change a damn thing!

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.  ~Anatole France

Believe It or Not, Change happens when you are ready

When change happens it is always right because there is something waiting for you - something to be learned, to be gained no matter the circumstances. This is true in every situation, and believe it or not change happens when you are ready. True talk, no lie as they say here.

When you are through changing, you are through.  ~Bruce Barton

Resist what is happening in your life and you'll get more of the same shit you don't want. In circumstances which seem dire, one option will be pressed upon you and you will be obliged to take it.

The only difference between a rut and a grave is their dimensions.  ~Ellen Glasgow

Why one? Because you allowed the other opportunities to slip through your fingers. At those times, nothing seems "right" however you're out of choices.

The result of your action turns out to be exactly what you need to take you to your destiny-nation. As Bob Proctor says in You Were Born Rich, what you seek is also seeking you.

My AHA! moment

Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches, letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights.  ~Pauline R. Kezer

I had an aha! moment in the shower this week and by the way, have you ever noticed how insights occur when you're under running water... I hope to expand on this at a later date. My insight was this:

°°°When your back is to the wall and there seems to be no way out despite your dogged efforts, one choice will present itself. Take it.

The universe works in mysterious and convoluted ways at times. Under such circumstances though, grasping the seemingly distasteful usually turns out to be more palatable than you thought. That also is a choice.°°°

It is not the strongest of the species that survive nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.  ~Author unknown

Take a meditative break and become still

How long has it been since someone touched part of you other than your body?  ~Laurel Hoodwrit

To gain some clarity of thought and purpose, take a meditative break to centre yourself.

Listen to the wonderful voice of Jennifer McLean in her free downloadable MP3s - Soul Song for 2010 (5 minutes)  and the two others (Soul Song and Ho'oponopono, 5 minutes, and Soul Song BodyTalk, 24 minutes). They're pretty damn wonderful and worth the time in the AM or PM.

Knock on the sky and listen to the sound.  ~Zen Saying

Listen to one or all of the recordings every day for one month and come back and tell me if they made a difference in your life. Start a journal to track your thoughts and feelings.

Lesson learned: when change is being forced upon you, accept it. You can thank me for this advice later.

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