Who You Truly Are and What You Already Know Is Enough!

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It has been extremely difficult to write about what's going on in my life over the  past months so I go elsewhere to find articles which speak for me just until I can.
My issue is a now revealed abysmal lack of inner confidence in my abilities after losing everything I thought was important hence the reason for my unemployment.

Giselle P Hudson's You are 'enough' vibes with my feelings of inadequacy in the new job market in my 50s, my projecting such a sure demeanor and yet feeling so desperate inside to get that job, any job, that I blow it before I even walk through the door.

I am not the only woman experiencing this shit therefore I have reproduced You are Enough here. Coincidentally, a 72-year old man I recently met made similar wise comments about mothers and women who voluntarily or not, work in the home or who are unemployed like me - I had begun thinking that I was unemployable - and have much to give outside of their traditional roles.

What struck me most on reading this article was that I also kept trying to redefine myself and reworking my CV every time based on different jobs I applied for, which is fine but... I always had the feeling that I wasn't enough, that I should have more or even that particular qualification or certificate to "clinch it" and that I needed to study something even though I knew that I was capable of getting the job done, and well.

If I'm not enough now, when will I ever be? If I don't accept and love who I am now, who will do that for me? Answer... nobody!

You Are Enough 

How does that statement make you feel? Comfortable? Doubtful? Anxious?  

In my walk through life I’ve met many women who don’t feel adequate. They pursue additional degrees, take extra courses, and enlist to participate in product trials and experiments, all with a view to improving themselves; to make themselves more worthy, more deserving, more attractive.  

After years of coaching high-achieving women, my colleague, master coach and personal development expert Marcia Reynolds started noticing something troubling: many of the clients with whom she worked were plagued by anxiety over their own restless responses to the world.  

These women were jumping jobs regularly, defining and redefining their relationship with the marketplace, constantly questioning their roles as wives and mothers and sisters. 

Business coach, Carrie Greene, recently shared one of her pet peeves: “You know what drives me crazy? When I speak with someone and they say to me, “As soon as I get one more certificate I’m going to raise my prices.” Or, “As soon as I get more experience, I’ll charge for my services.”  




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A Boston agency recently posted a job listing online for a Director of Operations position at a company called Rehtom Inc. The requirements sounded nothing short of brutal:  

• Standing up almost all the time 

• Constantly exerting yourself 

• Working from 135 to unlimited hours per week 

• Degrees in medicine, finance and culinary arts necessary 

• No vacations 

• The work load goes up on Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's and other holidays 

• No time to sleep 

• Salary = $0 

It was described as “The World’s Toughest Job”. The job ad got 2.7 million impressions from paid ad placements. Only 24 people inquired and they were interviewed via webcam, with their real-time reactions captured on video. The interviewees couldn’t believe the job requirements. They were shaking their heads and many started to make painful sounds as the interviewer provided more details.  

In the end, it was revealed that the job being described was Motherhood. The video, which was really an advertisement for Cardstore.com got 8 million views in two days, with many people e-mailing links to their moms. 

Charlotte Alter found the cutesy ad did not do justice to the profession of Motherhood and that the idea that the 135-plus hour work week, the lack of breaks and holidays, the sleepless nights and the constant vigilance is just for moms and not for dads is part of the reason moms have it so rough. 

I can see her point, but the other part I see is how qualified so many women are as mothers and caregivers, because they’re already doing the world’s toughest job yet they don’t see the skills they’ve acquired as managers of their households, kids, and budgets etc. as a valuable part of who they are. 

A very good friend of mine was applying for a senior managerial position in a company and shared that she did not have any experience.  

I asked her what about her experience as a single mother, managing four children, and seeing to ALL their needs? Coordinating activities, planning meals, dealing with crises? She immediately understood where I was coming from, but still felt that she was not enough. 

We ALL need to be reminded that we are ENOUGH. Today. Not when we get the certificate, or the degree, or the promotion or when we get married. That wherever we are right now in our lives – it’s ENOUGH!   




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In a recent Facebook update, bestselling author Anne Lamotte shared this: “My pastor said last Sunday that if you don't change directions, you are going to end up where you are headed. Is that okay with you, to end up still desperately trying to achieve more, and to get the world to validate your parking ticket?  

…Do you mind even a little that you are still addicted to people-pleasing, and are still putting everyone else's needs and laundry and career ahead of your creative, spiritual life? Giving all your life force away, to 'help' and impress?” 

Who you truly are and what you already know is enough. And I have news “there will ALWAYS be another class to take. Someone else is ALWAYS going to know more than you!” 

I leave you with these words by Alexandra Hope Flood, intuitive coach and blogger: 

1. You are a miracle. Never forget this fact. Just the science alone is mind blowing. 

2. You are unique. No one will ever be as good at being you as you are. Seriously. 

3. You are enough. Always. Never doubt this. There is nothing to add, but feel free to expand. 

4. There is always more to learn, but that is not failure, it is a gift. It can be fun too. 

5. Every obstacle is an opportunity to fall further into the miracle that is you. 

6. Commit to being the best version of you every day. Recalibrate definition of “best” as needed. 

7. Leave room for others when they fall off the wagon of their own miracle. 

8. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive every which way. Forgive him. Forgive her. Forgive you. 

9. Compassion is the key to forgiveness. Compassion means you feel the humanity in others. 

10.The more you forgive, the more you’ll enjoy being you, because the lighter your load will be. 

11. In the end, as in the beginning: You. Are. Amazing.  

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The Most Fulfilling Road - Listen to Yourself and Be Fearless



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Listen to yourself and be fearless in your actions. Nothing comes easy because we get in our own way. I heard someone say that a long time ago and from my experiences I know it's true.

I woke with the blazing thought in my head I am the captain of my ship, I am the master of my soul and nobody is going to stand in my way to hinder me in pursuing my desires, whatever they turn out to be!

I feel powerful and ALIVE and I am only 55 years young this 2014. Nobody on this planet can take this feeling away from me and the same goes for you.

Live your life as you see fit and follow your own beat. It is NOT easier said than done. It's a matter of doing, facing down all challengers whoever they may be - family, friends, lovers, neighbours - mowing down all obstacles whatever they happen to be and as I have learned, it's the petty shit that comes of most as excuses for their supposed concern. People just don't like change. It's too scary.

Listen here, the most fulfilling road is the one you choose.

You were not put on the planet to please anybody except yourself. That sounds selfish to some but what the heck. If you don't get up and get what you want, I guarantee you nobody is gonna come and give it to you.

It doesn't matter how you start or what you do, just get up and do it. There's no better time than right now, today!

YOU are unique! They broke the mould when they made you, and me. It is time to embrace your Self, drop the mask, step out, step up, be real and make a change every day. Do something you've never dared before and use the energy from your self-righteous anger to power you through the crowd of naysayers (well, we just don't do that) who want you to remain like them.

Stop playing small. It doesn't become you and only serves to make comfortable those who are too afraid to be.

Here's a reminder of who you really are.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. 

We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?  You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.  There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. 

We are all meant to shine, as children do.  We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.  It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

DailyOM's  Madisyn Taylor wrote this brilliant piece about being fearless as you follow that inner voice within to find the path that makes you feel fulfilled.. Empower yourself. Go into that silence and listen. You always know what's right for you.

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Finding Your Next Step in Life by Madisyn Taylor


It is when you are willing to listen to yourself and be fearless that figuring out your next step becomes easy. 

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There are many ways to discover what the next step on your life path should be. If you are someone who seeks to satisfy your soul, it is vital that you make this inquiry.



Often, your inner voice will counsel you that it’s time for a change, and it is very important to trust yourself because only you know what is best for you. Personal growth always results when you let yourself expand beyond the farthest borders of what your life has been so far.

When figuring out what your next step will be, you may want to review your life experiences. The choices you’ve made and the dreams you’ve held onto can give you an idea of what you don’t want to do anymore and what you might like to do next. It is also a good idea to think about creative ways you can use your skills and satisfy your passions.

Visualizing your perfect future and making a list of ways to manifest that future can help you choose a logical next step that’s in harmony with your desires. Meditation, journal writing, taking a class, and other creative activities may inspire you and provide insight regarding the next step in life that will bring you the most satisfaction.

It is when you are willing to listen to yourself and be fearless that figuring out your next step becomes easy. Beneath the fear and hesitation and uncertainty lies your inner knowing that always knows which step you need to take next.

If you can allow the taking of your next step to be as easy as putting one foot in front of the next, you’ll notice that your next step is always the one that is right in front of you. All you have to do is put one foot forward and on the ground.
Our lives are made up of a complex network of pathways that we can use to move from one phase of life to the next. For some of us, our paths are wide, smooth, and clearly marked. Many people, however, find that they have a difficult time figuring out where they need to go next.

Determining which “next step” will land you on the most direct route to fulfillment and the realization of your life purpose may not seem easy.

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11 Empowering Quotes to Lead You to Your Truth in 2014

Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way.  ~Eileen Caddy

 

 

Remember, the thoughts that you think and the statements you make regarding yourself determine your mental attitude. If you have a worthwhile objective, find the one reason why you can achieve it rather than hundreds of reasons why you can't.  Napoleon Hill

 

 

 

You are the master of your life, you are the master of your mind, you have the power to change the way you think and feel. You have the power in you to achieve your goals, to become the person you want to be, and to live the life of your dreams.  ~Zlatoslava Petrak, Author of Open To The Infinite Riches Of The Universe

 

 

 

Don't be afraid to be unique or speak your mind, because that's what makes you different from everyone else. ~Dave Thomas

  

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One thing we do know: Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.  ~Eckhart Tolle 

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7 Tips to Make 2014 YOUR Year of Positive Thinking

The ability to not hide behind a mask but to own your truth is one of the first aspects of being a wholesome human being. ~Angela Martin, Editor, Trinidad Express Woman Magazine



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I chose to share this article from the Trinidad Express Woman Magazine of 5 January 2014 because it vibes with my purpose this year to be positively conscious and serene.

The 7 tips also underline what I know to be true, that masks are a waste of time - dare to be bare, be authentic, be real; that action is necessary to get what you desire, commit yourself - get up and get it no matter what it takes; that life really is about living. Embrace it. Love life, after all you are life!

Living out loud is the only way to be. That is why you are here.

2014 Year of Positive Thinking

You have a bright idea somewhere in the back of your mind that you just can't wait to test out. The question is, do you really want to bring it out into the light?: What could motivate you to churn your creative, inspiring juices to their utmost flavor?

Did you know that it always helps to set a time line to your personal goals? Set yourself up so you can accomplish the most tasks in record time. For example, mowing the lawn in an hour before the big game on TV.

A correct and positive attitude in whatever you do will make things easier, and even enjoyable.

It's simple. If you begin to allow yourself a bit of positive thinking then you will begin to realise things that you never thought possible.

Discover 7 tips to make 2014 your year of positive thinking but I've put my own twist to them.

1- ACT. You must take passionate action towards living your life by design. Talk is cheap. Action equals deposits in the bank of a passionately authentic future. Action speaks louder than words. Without action, passion is void.

Dreams become reality when you begin by imagining and fantasizing on how things could be, fleshing it out then taking action to make it a reality. And if the idea weakens or falters, you can always go back to it later until you finish it or it could be a signal that it needs more work or you're on the wrong track. Only you will know through intuitive action, when you feel it.

2- LOVE. Commit to yourself then commit to those you love to powerfully create a life you can love. Instead of re-acting (repeating the same old), commit to creating from your heart and soul, out of love rather than fear. The possibilities of prosperity and success will always be there but a dream will still be a dream without motion. Be amazed as the transformation begins. Yeah!

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3- LIVE.  Embrace moments and opportunities. Recognise and embrace the thought that each moment is perfect regardless of its outcome.

Every time something appears that may seem too extreme for you give it a shot anyway. Step out of your comfort zone. You don't know it will work but you may be surprised by the results. If they are not satisfactory use that opportunity to learn from it and make the appropriate shift.

Learning and growing is part of living. There are no such things as failures.


4- BE GRATEFUL. Dwell completely in a place of gratitude. Learn to use what you have in the most constructive way. Necessity is the mother of invention, after all. Have you ever needed something so badly but nothing was forthcoming so you had to make do with what was at hand? I have, many many times. You become resourceful and it grows. How grateful were you that you had the means to solve your situation?

The habit of being needy - a very negative emotion - will diminish when you repeatedly shift towards gratitude and away from poverty consciousness.

5- BE PASSIONATE. Use a passion formula of Recognise/Re-evaluate/Restore in place of the shoulda/woulda/coulda whirlwind. The former is based on increased knowledge and abundance while the latter focuses on scarcity and lack.

6- LAUGH. Keep humor at the forefront of thought, laughing at and with yourself whenever possible. You  may find yourself quite entertaining when you loosen up! I crack  myself up and I love it! Life has too much to offer to allow yourself to mope around in self pity. Humor is very attractive, very passionate, life-giving.

7- DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE. Believe that you are the architect of your destiny. Deciding how you wish to be remembered when you pass from this life is truly a driving force for some but for me, the one question that I must be able to answer in the affirmative is "did I enjoy myself without regret". Your purpose for being can be as simple as being a great parent, wife, lover, office worker to discovering how to save our planet from the destructive effects of climate change.

Set a goal to achieve something that is so big, so exhilarating that it excites you and scares you at the same time. It must be a goal that is so appealing, so much in line with your spiritual core, that you can't get it out of your mind. If you do not get chills when you set a goal, you're not setting big enough goals. ~Bob Proctor

When you have a strong purpose no one can take your passionate future from you - except for you! Truly, as long as there's still breath in your body there is no end to how much you can accomplish in a lifetime.

Discovering and following your purpose makes you enjoy whatever you do. It will never be "work". Celebrate the discovery that making your dreams a reality fulfills your purpose for being here. Watch everything flow into place with perfect, passionate precision.

Activate your positive thinking. Stretch your imagination. Think bigger than you feel comfortable. Act on your thoughts. That is intuitive action.

You are not doomed. Living a life of purpose and love is what you desire. You ache for something better. That wonderful, creative idea in you is about to be released. You want to do this because you are reading this article. When you truly desire something, the means to attain it sparks your imagination in such a way that it becomes inevitable the more you persist, work at it and flesh it out.
 

 Go to it!

(Taken from the Trinidad Express Woman Magazine, page 23, 5 January 2014)

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Empower Yourself - Taking Charge of the Balloon - Direct Your Own Life

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Taking Charge of the Balloon

A man in a hot air balloon, realizing he was lost, lowered it to shout to a fellow on the ground, “The wind’s blown me off course. Can you tell me where I am?”

The man replied, “Sure. You’re hovering about 60 feet over this wheat field.”

“You must be an engineer,” the balloonist yelled.

“I am. How did you know?” the man replied.

“Well, everything you told me is technically correct but of absolutely no use.”

The engineer retorted, “You’re an executive, right?”

“How did you know?” the balloonist responded.

“Well, you were drifting in no particular direction before you asked my help and you’re still lost, but now it’s my fault.”

The balloon is a good metaphor for our lives. At first, all we want to do is rise as high as we can in terms of money, position and prestige. Yet as we rise wind currents push us sideways. Eventually, many of us discover that we’re on a very different course than we intended, a long way from the spot we took off from or hoped to end up at. So we blame the wind or anything else.

What we have to realize is that our power of choice is a steering mechanism that lets us respond to each breeze and gust. We can drift with or go against the current. Like haphazard wind currents, unplanned events beyond our control affect the direction of our lives. But, in the end, what we do and become is determined by our choices. The key is to be attentive, to look around to be sure we are going where we want to go.

Remember, character counts.

Michael Josephson
http://www.whatwillmatter.com/

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Life Challenges - Expect a Miracle from Humble St Nicholas

Call to ACTION - It’s time for your letter to Santa.

Do you have an idea or problem that you or the world needs to work on today?  

Write a letter detailing your heartfelt concern to Santa - either personal or global- and request the gift of a solution from this humble St. Nicholas. As you state the problem, be aware of potential ideas and

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perhaps solutions that come to mind. Whether fantasy or reality, write them down as they occur.  

As you brainstorm within your letter, consider how by composing your letter you are setting up the expectation for an answer. Give yourself freedom to be a seeker of a positive outcome even if your reality is currently negative. Write your “Dear Santa” letter on your best stationery, in your best hand-writing, and place it in an envelope.  

Remember to date and sign it too.

Now, put it right where you know Santa will find it, and listen in your heart to hear his response. When the time is right, once again put pen to paper and allow Santa to dictate his response to you.  

Expect a miracle. Santa always delivers on schedule!

Action Assignment 49 from NapoleonHill.org

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TAT - A FAB Technique to Empower Yourself and Get Free of Stress and Trauma

TAT - Tapas Acupressure Technique is a fabulously simple, non-invasive procedure to remove stress and any kind of trauma. I have used it to amazing effect and I strongly suggest you give it a try. I didn't believe but was desperate to get rid of the hate for the man who raped me, the child and of my mother who denied it happened.

It destroyed my childhood and my adult years into my mid 40s. TAT is so amazing, I've collated a few of the founder's, Tapas Fleming's videos here to illustrate it.

TAT is based on Chinese acupuncture using three fingers on your face. It couldn't be simpler. It's just another fabulous way to empower yourself and get free of the emotional clutter which habitually destroys your living a fruitful and healthy life.

All I can say is try it, what could it hurt.

What is TAT


TAT Trauma - Her Mother Burnt her Teddy Bear



TAT Pose and stopper for Weight Loss


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17 Life Changing Quotes to Uplift and Empower You in 2013



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1- All things that truly matter - beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace - arise from beyond the mind. ~Eckhart Tolle

2- Everybody is like a magnet. You attract to yourself reflections of that which you are. If you're friendly then everybody else seems to be friendly too. ~Dr. David Hawkins

3- Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment. ~Eckhart Tolle

4- Remember, the thoughts that you think and the statements you make regarding yourself determine your mental attitude. If you have a worthwhile objective, find the one reason why you can achieve it rather than hundreds of reasons why you can't. ~Napoleon Hill

5- Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true. ~Brian Tracy

6- People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily. ~Zig Ziglar

7- I realized early on that success was tied to not giving up. Most people in this business gave up and went on to other things. If you simply didn't give up, you would outlast the people who came in on the bus with you. ~Harrison Ford

8- Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work. ~Thomas Edison

9- One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat. ~Napoleon Hill

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10- Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens. ~John Homer Miller

11- I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear. Knowing what must be done does away with fear. ~Rosa Parks

12- As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~Marianne Williamson

13- Stop being who you were and become who you are. ~Paulo Coelho

14- We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and your future. ~Steve Maraboli

15- You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given to you. ~Sarah Ban Breathnack

16- Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose. ~Eckhart Tolle

17- I love life, live loves me. It is going to be smooth and easy. Life works for me. Louise L. Hay

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ACT AS IF - Convey the Feeling of the Result You Want

This is the clearest explanation, description and example I have ever read about "acting as if ". It's from the folks at Yourself Empowered.

We hear this term used pretty often now to describe the process of pretending you already have what you desire or have already attained a particular goal or objective using visualisation, affirmations etc. but few explain the innards that some folks need to get them going, especially when they don't have the faith that they will succeed.

Napoleon Hill explains that faith is an eternal elixir and it's that juice which rests dormant in our hearts and minds that we gotta get moving. When we feel that things are so far gone that it makes no difference dream into reality - use your creative workshop. That's what visualisation, using your imagination is all about. It's your own private workshop where you  act as if.



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It takes consistency, entering your workshop every day - especially when you don't feel like it - at the same time, for the same length of time until you develop the habit of using your imagination to fuel your desire. Eventually, you will start to feel so wonderful that you will look forward to it.

Here's what Yourself Empowered says about Act as if. Yes, it's a bit long but quite clear and I've included some extra reading links for you as well.

There has been some confusion around the meaning of "acting as if" you already have what you want. Some who are struggling financially, for example, wonder if they should be spending as if they have the money they need - the money they're visualising? The advice "act as if" can be very destructive, if not explained. Here's what it means:

The subconscious mind is like a genie. It doesn't reason, it doesn't argue, it doesn't judge. It just does as it's programmed to do. The conscious mind is the boss. Unfortunately, the boss doesn't always know what it's doing! ;)

The conscious mind is constantly instructing the subconscious - mostly on automatic and without awareness.

The way to instruct your genie with awareness and intention, is to convey the feeling of the result you want, to your subconscious. Imagination is the tool for conjuring up specific feelings.

If you consistently (and that's the most important - and most underestimated - bit) *consistently* imagine a specific scene that creates a specific feeling in you, you are effectively instructing - inserting a program - for the subconscious.

"Act as if" refers to in your imagination, because THAT is where the creation is happening, not in the outside world. The control panel for "out there" is inside you.

So, for example, a person who is struggling financially wants financial security. He creates this scene in his imagination:

He is at a table with all his close family and friends, in a wonderful restaurant. They've just had a fabulous meal, and he can see the empty wine bottles and remnants of dinner on the plates.

The waiter brings the bill to the table, and he calls to the waiter, to bring the bill to him. His friends and family object, and want to pay, but he insists that he will pay. The waiter brings the bill to him, and he takes out the cash, and places it on the bill, along with a generous tip. He feels the feeeeeling of being able to treat his family and friends, he feels the joy of seeing the waiter's face light up when he sees his tip.

This person is "acting as if" in the most important place (in fact, the only place that matters) - his imagination - which is what fuels the subconscious, which is the power that brings this scene to reality.

"Acting as if" in reality doesn't do anything, except probably get a person into more trouble ;)  It's the subconscious that is the power, and the imagination that is the fuel for that power.

When this person feels worried about money in reality - when he gets another bill he can't pay - he "acts as if" in his imagination - he closes his eyes, in that moment, and brings that restaurant scene to mind.

 

He feeeels the feeeeling of calling the waiter over and insisting on paying the full bill, of tipping that waiter generously. And in doing that, right in the middle of the worry of the bill he can't pay, he is changing the program in his subconscious... which, as long as he is consistent, will change his reality.

And, if he continues with that scene, daily, and continues to "act as if" in that scene in his imagination whenever doubt or worry creep in, he will find himself one evening, paying the bill for a wonderful dinner with his family and friends, happily tipping the waiter generously, with exactly the same feeling. And the feeling of being able to easily afford this, which he has been imagining... will be reality.

Acting as if" in your imagination, consistently (meaning at least once or twice every day, as well as every time you feel doubt or worry) is powering your subconscious to create that end result.

HERE'S A PLAN:

1- Pick at least two moments in your day to do this. Preferably first thing in the morning and last thing at night, but make sure they are times you will stick to.

Just as you brush your teeth every day regardless, you'll do this every day in the same way. In fact, you might like to do it when you brush your teeth, to make sure it's consistent.

2- Create a scene that would happen if you had what you want. Imagine yourself telling a friend that it's happened. What would you say? What would your friend say? Where would you be? Would you be eating or drinking anything? What would you see, what would you feel, hear, smell, taste?

3- Spend a few minutes imagining this scene, just as you would day-dreaming. Enjoy it. Do this at least every morning and evening (just before going to sleep is very effective.

4- During your day, whenever you feel worried or doubtful, or stressed, remember that scene. For a moment, remember what you did in that scene, and "act as if" in that scene. In other words, if the scene is you telling your friend over coffee, that you got the promotion you wanted, imagine showing your friend the letter - or better yet, read the letter to her.

Or, imagine yourself going into work, into your new office, or chatting to a work colleague about your new project. In this moment, you're redirecting your subconscious from the worrying or stress, to the course you want to set - the promotion, or whatever the end result is that you want. Keep resetting that course throughout the day, by "acting as if" in your imagination.

Hope this helps :) Love and Light and Magic xxx

Yourself Empowered

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More on Creativity and imagination:
Deepak Chopra's The secret of creativity
IntentBlog - 7 ways to let go and watch your life flourish
- Manifesting 101: How to create the life you want
- How embracing your limitations will make you more creative

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2 Ways to Exorcise Your Fearful Thoughts and Feelings

I am a voracious reader  and I find messages in books that help me deal with difficulties What the night knows is one such book.
in my life at any point in time and Dean Koontz's

I've been agonizing for weeks, terrified, worried sick really of never finding another job and I am 54 now and jobless since 2012 and under-employed since 2010. On top of that, I met a man, loved something special in him only to discover that he was an abusive alcoholic who I want out of my life, and to cap it all I live in a homeless shelter.

"So be as a child. Put aside pride and vanity. Have the humility of a child who is weak and knows his weakness. Admit fear in the face of the void. Admit ignorance in the presence of the unknowable. A child believes in mysteries within mysteries and seeks wonder, which should be easy considering that here in this year, this very moment, John was adrift in a sea of mystery, in a storm of wonder. What the heart knows, the mind has forgotten and what the heart knows is the truth. ~Koontz's Calvino

My fear reached its peak and caused me to sit up all night on the balcony wracked with the pain of my negative thoughts.

These powerful, negative feelings only give rise to negative results because we feed those beliefs that
bring us down and we begin living in the hell we created.

Worse, we invited that thing that we don't want into our lives, "nothing's ever going to work for me", "he might as well kill me, I don't care anymore" type of shit. That's where I was.

I stayed up supping all night into early morning on the words of Koontz's characters and gained a lot of insight into my own fears.

This is not a book review. Yes, it's got a psychological thrill but even more important and significant to me, it focuses on the innate strength and intuitive knowing of children and how they hold up the world, theirs and ours.

The book was superb, the best I've read in this genre in a few years. Children and adults overcome their fears in their own unique ways, fight for the right to live and love like any adult and are wise beyond their years.

One of the boys now grown reflects on a 20-year old fear that burdened him: "But he figured that if he worried excessively about the feather and what it implied, he might be inviting something into his life that he would regret. Someone once said that if you painted the devil on the walls often enought, you got the devil on the stairs, his footsteps approaching."

I was reminded to face what you fear - FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real - with the utter conviction that it cannot harm you ever. No matter if you are shaking as if you have ague, deal with it and free yourself.

Nothing and no one can harm you unless you believe they can. It means you gave away your power by focusing on the other person instead of yourself and what you want! In these situation, be kind to yourself and have compassion for yourself.

In other words, stop beating yourself up!

After the weight of 20 years apprehension has lifted , Calvino says, "In my work Mr Dugley, I've seen that good usually triumphs. But I've also seen that evil never dies. it's always wise to remain vigilant."

2 ways to exorcise your fearful thoughts and feelings:

1- Write a letter

Don't want to or can't face your monster, imagined or real life events, make some quiet time for yourself then sit down write him or her a no-holds barred letter. Write down every single thing you think and feel about that person to exorcise those demonic thoughts and feelings.

Burn the letter afterward and move on with your new, free life.

2- Face the mirror

Stand in front of the mirror and imagine that beast - mother, father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, friend, neighbour, lover, husband, or colleague - is standing right there in front of you, in the flesh and let rip. Bare your goddam soul as you never have before. Let it all come out.

When you're done, it's done. Go treat yourself to something that makes you feel good and let that be the end of it all.

These two exercises are powerful, cathartic and emotionally freeing. It's just another way of removing emotional blockages and works on anything that disturbs your equilibrium. The letter is particularly powerful and could be one way of opening the door for a much needed discussion.


 "In this world of ours, there's always a chance that a day of fire will come, but there is nothing to be gained by extending an invitation to the arsonist, no matter how persistently he hints that he would like to have one." Koontz's Dugley

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Stick to your Principels in the Hour of Adversity

Your real courage shows best in the hour of adversity.

Some setbacks are so severe that to give in to them means losing the whole ball game.

When he assumed command of the Korean War, Gen. Matthew Ridgeway found his forces pushed far to the south, hard pressed by the invaders.

Only a determined decision to hold the lines allowed the American forces to keep from being swept into the sea and to eventually regain all the territory they had lost.

When a defeat strikes, you may not have the time to withdraw and contemplate your mistakes without risking further setbacks. Don’t succumb to paralysis.

It is important to know at that moment what it is you truly desire and to act to preserve your resources and your hope. If you crumble utterly, you will take a blow to your self-esteem that will be hard to repair.

Instead, stick to your principles, and you will know, at the very least, that you have protected the most important thing you have.

Your successes in life will far outnumber your failures.

 NapoleonHill

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Change your Thought, Your Reality must Follow

The Law of Attraction is responding to your thought, not to your current reality. When you change the thought, your reality must follow suit. If things are going well for you, then focusing upon what is happening now will cause the well-being to continue, but if there are things happening now that are not pleasing, you must find a way of taking your attention away from those unwanted things.

You have the ability to quickly change your patterns of thought, and eventually… your life experience.

Take 15 minutes daily, thinking of pleasant scenarios regarding your body, with the sole intent of enjoying your body and appreciating its strength and stamina and flexibility and beauty. When you visualize for the joy of visualizing rather than with the intention of correcting some deficiency, your thoughts are more pure and, therefore, more powerful. When you visualize to overcome something that is wrong, your thoughts are diluted with the "lackful" side of the equation. In time, your physical condition will acquiesce to your dominant thoughts.
--- Abraham

Excerpted from the book "Money and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Health, Wealth and Happiness" #669

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7 Practices for a Fresh New Year - Resolving What Really Matters and Opening The Door Within

Chinese character for Love 

The loveliest lady shrink I know, Cara Barker wrote a smashing article Resolving what really matters - 7 practices for a fresh new year. 

I completed this immediately after I read the article  and you know what happened, a door opened somewhere inside me.

Now, I haven't a clue on that means for my future but I am game to get it on. I do believe that is love — respecting the soul's needs. That is what I feel and therefore I have no other choice.

I must pursue this, pull at the end of this string and see where it leads.

Take your time and complete each of the seven points. They will highlight, unbeknowst to you, your accomplishments — when you probably think they were inexistent —and perhaps help you to flesh out your goals...

1 - Recall the gratitude you have for what others have given. (I am grateful for Maria, Georg, Marcos, Omar, Raymond, John, and other "human angels" whom I did not know last year but who have assisted me to embrace new challenges by their example of upbeat, loving service.

I am grateful to those of you who know who you are, who have gone above and beyond to assist me to "learn to walk again" in more ways than one.) Your turn. Make your list.
 2 - Recall the personal challenges that have helped you grow. Find compassion for the simple expressions of good that have come your way. (I am grateful for the encouragement of HuffPost readers, and your compassion as you claim your right to grow together, taking the time for outreach when it's impractical to take your time to do so.) Tell those who've assisted your unfolding.
 
3 - Recall moments of beauty. Beauty comes out of chaos. (I am grateful for the forest outside my window, the pond beside the forest, the hummingbirds at the feeder this December.) Share the memory with someone you love. Ask them theirs.
 
4 - Recall the new people, places and things you discovered that touched you most. (I am grateful for connecting with others who care about what's most important to the heart as we grow together, even while limping!) Write a thank-you notes in three sentences or less, and send them.
 
5. Recall the dreams that have continued to stir your heart, pressing your spirit to express them while you still can. (I remember my gratitude for unfolding clarity on The Love Project, and what must be created to live it out in the rest of my life.) Ask someone you love about their current dream, and share your own.
 
6 - Recall the unexpected moments of encouragement you've found in nature, in the stillness, or in a glance or look from another living creature that have reminded you that connection lives, and that life is richest when appreciating the simple things.
 
7 - Recall one favorite moment from this year that touched you deeply. (I remember my grandbaby touching my cheek, again and again, as she drifted off to sleep, and the awareness that what matters most, at the end of the day, is love.) Thank whomever needs thanking.

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How bullet-proof is your bubble of beliefs?

Dr Judith Rich's It ain't necessarily so: How bulletproof is your bubble of beliefs? is a commentary about the Republican party's reaction after their defeat in the Presidential Election 2012.

She then discusses the manner in which we delude ourselves, lie to ourselves, to avoid dealing with our own life challenges.

Basically, it's so much easier to let sleeping dogs lie.

She is such an insightful person that the entire article is a must read. She asks us to use the 7 questions to pierce our own bubbles of illusions and gain insight into our psyche and free ourselves from mental bondage, as I call it.

Empower yourself to change and be a better you!

Because of the magnitude of their impact, last week's election results are a perfect opportunity for each of us to see ourselves in the faces of those who never saw it coming and ask ourselves the following questions:

1. Where in my own life have I been falsely certain of an outcome that later turned out not to be even remotely so?

2. What was I pretending not to know at the time?

3. What inconvenient truth about myself, or the situation, was I avoiding?

4. What was I unwilling or too afraid to look at in myself?

5. How do I avoid taking responsibility when life delivers such a surprise? Who do I blame? What justifications do I use?

6. What evidence did I reject in order to be right about my beliefs? Who did I make wrong?

7. Who can I count on to pierce through my bubble and confront me with the truth when I least want to hear it?

It's human nature to create beliefs and then to defend them. Sometimes at all costs. But if you are ever to live a meaningful life, one based on a somewhat realistic view of the world in which you live, it pays to surround yourself with people who will call you on your... well, let's just call them "fantasies."

We need people in our lives who care enough about us to risk telling the truth, especially when doing so might jeopardize the relationship. This is a delicate skill to acquire. It takes a great deal of honesty and trust to develop this kind of relationship because very often, the relationship itself can indeed, be at stake. Or at least appear to be.

Our bubble of beliefs would benefit from regular audits.

Do a merciless inventory at regular intervals. Ask yourself questions 1-7 and see how you stack up. You may not have a presidential election at stake in your own life, but something even more important is on the line: your future.

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